When my oldest son first went to Houghton College, I shared my wisdom of surviving college with him. Your actual mileage may vary
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #1:
It is not
unusual to sit through the first day or two of class and think to
yourself, "I don't have a
clue as to what they're talking about." Rest
assured, nobody else in the class does either (and that may include the
teacher), but everything does ultimately make sense after the first
week.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #2:
Treat
college like a job. Spend 8 hours a day on class, homework, study,
writing, reading, reading ahead, etc., spend the other 8 hours doing
whatever you like to do, and spend 8 hours sleeping. Now there are times
when you'll have to dedicate more than 8 hours a day to the college
aspect of life (tests, finals, etc.), but on the whole, this is a good
plan for success.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #3:
There
are three types of people to avoid at college: The student who is there
to please his/her parents, the student who is there because s/he had
nothing better to do, the young lady there looking solely for her MRS.
degree.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #4:
- An active social life.
- Good grades
- Sleep
Choose two. Welcome to college.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #5:
When
you are as old as me with a metabolism that flows as fast as molasses
on a freezing January morning, you can skip meals. Heck, I could
probably skip weeks without ill effect. However, skipping breakfast at
your age is a no-no. When I was at college I lived on quick meals and
lots of Almond Crush soda. The result was some intriguing vitamin
deficiencies. No fun at all.
Eat your Wheaties.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #6:
True
story. I went to a STRICT Bible College and ended up having to take a
linguistics class as I needed an elective and it was the only one
available. Hated the class and there was some minimal friction between
the teacher and myself over some disputed grades.
At the
final, he walked into the class, took a huge rock, slammed it on the
desk and said, "This is how hard this test is going to be."
I turned to the guy sitting next to me and said, "Hey, look. His heart fell out."
The teacher heard me and failed me on the spot.
Draw your own moral.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #7:
It
is not unusual for college students to switch their majors and there is
nothing wrong with that. It is sad to climb the ladder of life only to
discover you have leaned it against the wrong wall. However, unless you
can show me a detailed plan of effectiveness with a future, if you
choose English, Communications, or Art, I will spend the rest of my life
crying myself to sleep.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #8:
You
will look back at your college years as the years you had the greatest
freedom. Many people use that freedom to make friendships, travel, and
learn. Others shipwreck themselves on self-defeating and
self-destructive behaviors mistakenly thinking that liberty means
license.
"Go for the gusto" is good theology for Christians as long as we understand what moral boundaries are.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #9:
Your deadliest enemy at college:
Procrastination.
GET 'ER DONE!
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #10:
Remember when doing laundry that you should not combine a white load
with a dark load or with a colored load. This seems very mundane until
you realize how many freshmen are going through their first year with
their tighty whities a pastel pink.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #11a:
Here is the only bad news about college: At college you are making new
friends, learning new ideas, and seeing life in a new way. You are
stretching your wings and you are learning what independence is. When
you come home, you will have subtly changed which will cause a shock to
friends and family who remember you as you were when you left.
Psychologists call this "Reverse Culture Shock." Poets say, "You can
never come home again."
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #11b:
Ignore the psychologists and the poets. Where your family is, there will always be home.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #12:
Remember also your Creator in the days of your youth. (Ecclesiastes 12:1a)
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #13:
It is easy at college to develop a lifestyle that can function out of
balance in the unique atmosphere of university life. However, remember
you have a long life after your four to six years and must balance all
aspects of your life: spiritual, physical, relational, financial,
emotional, mental, vocational, and there is probably one or two more I
have forgotten.
A Father's Advice to His Son at College #14:
Caffeine
can be an asset if it is used responsibly. However, do remember that
those whom the gods destroy, they first addict to caffeine.